Posts tagged Bravery
Plausible deniability

If we're honest, we've all sought it out. It's a tantalizing proposition. The offer of plausible deniability is direct access to feelings of safety, preserving the status quo, and self-promotion.

Those are desirable feelings. They're also far from free because the exchange of plausible deniability is less and less ownership.

That's a tough pill to swallow for those of us interested in doing remarkable work. The work of a linchpin professional is continuously moving in the direction of more and more ownership of the work. Not less.

With ownership comes opportunities for generosity, possibility, self-discovery, and yes, remarkability. To access these though we must be willing to set aside the allure of plausible deniability.

If it's remarkable work, remarkable relationships, remarkable lives that we're after then the decision awaiting us is this:

Bravely choose responsibility over deniability.


It takes guts to finish. To get to the point in our project where we can say, “Here I made this”.

As soon as we finish, now we’re ready to share it with the world. Or else we’re hiding. And if we share it with the world, well then we risk being rejected. It’s easy to feel like that rejection is personal, it’s because of us we say.

But it’s not. The work is personal; the rejection isn’t.

We’re slow to believe that, and so often, we’re slow to finish. That’s why it takes guts to finish. It’s brave and generous work. Sometimes it’s easier to find the guts if you aren’t all alone.

My good friend Mark Dyck launched his new website. He’s a man of many talents, and one of them is helping people to finish. If you’re stuck in the hard part, if you need help pushing through, or you’re looking to take your project to the next level, Mark might be just the guy for you.

The part when we worry

What if they don’t like it?

What if they don’t like me?

What if something goes wrong?

What if I missed something?

What if no one cares?

What if…

Here’s a different one — What if we skipped that part, and merely got on with it? That moment when we feel our stomach start turning, what would happen if we got right back to deciding, or doing, or sharing? Because when was the last time our worry did us any good?

This is not a request for rush or carelessness, more like decided bravery. No time for worry; we have more important things to attend to.